Relationships? As satisfying as they are, they can sometimes be quite difficult. The very process of getting into one is often filled with anxiety and quite a lot of insecurities. It reveals all your weak spots and makes you vulnerable. But there would be no closeness without vulnerability, so it is not something to run away from.
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Anyway, before you can get to the point where you are completely vulnerable with another person, you first need to make the relationship happen. So as to make the relationship work, you need to, well, converse with that other person. Watching the girl, you like from afar and never initiating a conversation certainly won’t get you anywhere.
So, you have to be a bit more proactive. You have to take a chance and start a conversation. Simply saying “Hi” will do as a nice beginning, but you will need to know where to take things from there. Sure, you can count on your own and the other person’s spontaneity at times, but it doesn’t hurt to be at least a little bit prepared.
Put simply, it doesn’t hurt to have at least a few questions in mind to ask the girl that you like. Whether you have just met her, or have been crushing on her for a while, asking the right questions will guide your conversation and possibly take it to a deeper and more satisfactory level, while also allowing you to find out some important things about the girl and generally get to know her better. Here are some more tips on how to grab the girl’s interest, and below I will share some interesting questions you should ask her once you start conversing.
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What Are the Three Things That Make You Smile?
If you were expecting those boring questions such as “Where did you grow up?” “Where do you work?” or “What is your 5-year plan?” then you definitely had the wrong expectations. While I have nothing against those questions, they are a bit too formal and can sometimes lead to dead ends in conversation. If you want to loosen things up a bit, and you should, then you’ll need something more interesting.
What are the three things that make you smile? Asking this question will, of course, automatically make the girl smile. Because, after all, it’s not a question she gets often, and then, she will have to search her brain for some pleasant situations that put a smile on her face. This is a good question to ask also because you will get to learn what she loves, which could help in date planning down the line.
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How Do You Picture the Worst Date Ever?
Speaking of date planning, the last thing you want is for it to be a nightmare. Everyone has their own version of a nightmare, though. So, check how the girl you like pictures the worst date, remember that, and then never recreate it for her. She may open up and tell you about some past experiences that weren’t so pleasant, and you may do the same in return, so this is a great conversation starter.
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What About an Ideal Date?
Following naturally from the above, you should also inquire about an ideal date. This is bound to be on everyone’s list of good questions to ask a girl, because it is a goldmine of useful information. Once she gives you the answer, you’ll have a lot of material to go on when the time comes to plan a date for you two. Plus, you can compare her answer to yours and check just how compatible you two would be.
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What Is Romance for You?
Compatibility stems from looking at certain things in the same way. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that everyone sees romance through the same glasses, so to speak. It means different things for different people. Find out what it means to the girl you like, and you’ll get a good idea about what she expects from her partner.
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What Is the Best Gift You Have Ever Received?
At some point in the future, you may want to give her a gift. Through the above question, you’ll find out what the best gift she ever received was, which could give you some ideas. The point is not trying to top that gift, although nobody will blame you if you do. The point is actually to get a better understanding of her likes and preferences so that you can think of the perfect gift some time down the line. Plus, the answer to this question can reveal a lot of character, which will help you check if you two would get along and if you really like her personality.
